by Donsy Kunene

I really don’t know the definition of love because no one has ever demonstrated what love really is. They say it is felt, when I embrace my lover, when I hold her palms. They say it is to be heard, in the rustle of the leaves, in the cool breeze, in the words of the special person in my life. They say compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another. Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection.
After Love there’s marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock – a socially or ritually recognised union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between those spouses, as well as between them and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity (in-laws and other family through marriage). Marriage has to be demonstrated through an event called a wedding.
For the first time in my life, I have attended a wedding, not just a wedding as I used to see it on TV and Newspapers, but an ostentatious wedding. I count myself lucky to have witnessed that wedding, it will take me more than a decade to forget about it – hence I call it the wedding of the decade. My excitement started the day I received a special invite two months ahead of the actual date.
Prior to the wedding, the bridal shower was hosted by very close friends in Durban on the 5th August. Following their colourful traditional festivities associated with the wedding in September, 02, 2017, the Business Women and Media experts, Thandeka Ngobese and long-time partner, Indlovukazi Mapule, walked down the aisle in a glitzy white wedding ceremony on a warm Saturday morning. The matrimonial and reception ceremonies were held at the prestigious secluded venue Zunguness, in the KZN Midlands, known as ‘The Home of Wedding” (Ikhaya lomshado). They were joined by 250 friends and family, wearing 50 shades of stunning green and yellow suits and dresses.
With Vusi Zama as the wedding planner, it was obvious that the wedding was going to be something out of the ordinary. The ceremony was exclusively photographed by and UniQ Magazine SA as the wedding was strictly unplugged. Before the wedding proceedings, guests were told to indulge in the scrumptious teasers prepared by a dedicated staff of Nto’s Catering at the second lap of the garden setup. Guests enjoyed cocktails, wines, champagnes, juices and soft drinks while relaxing on comfortable white chairs and couches.
The bridesmaids and the Matron of Honour Cry Ncube on their high heels and yellow laced dresses, opened the garden stair way for the brides to the outdoor alter, flanked with green and yellow flowers to the alter where the officiator was calmly waiting while wearing a beautiful smile. The first bride (Thandeka) made a grand entrance with her father holding her hand with ‘Nguwe Sthandwa Sam’ by Malaika, and Mapule with her brother accompanied by the ‘Masithokoze’ track by Mafikizolo rendered live by beautiful vocal serenades by Angel Zondo. The couple looked like angels floating in the air; filling the garden with love like the old adage, love was literally in the air. The moment was emotional, with guests catching the feelings with tears of joy trickling down their cheeks. It was such a beautiful moment seeing the love birds finally tying the knot. The vows were chosen by the couple and shared passionately in front of the guests.
Thandeka and Mapule showed the world the real meaning of love in so many ways; their wedding served as a free lesson and eye opener to those who are still planning to tie the knot. One of the Speakers described them as spiritual partners who are completely incomparable and supplement each other with their diverse traits. He described Thandeka as an introvert and Mapule as an extrovert. The couple attested to the speaker’s observation as correct, when the officiator, Fiona, narrated to the audience how their individuality complements their union.
The reception was hosted by the couple in the impressively decorated hall with rectangular tables within the Zunguness premises, situated close to the magnificent forest. The brides and their maids, arrayed in fashionable suits with each individual wearing a different colour, entered the hall with the hit song ‘IF’’ by Davido which ushered them to the party mode. Family and Guests were offered a Texas Style Buffet prepared by Nto, who also did the décor.
The couple was presented to the guests and honoured with a toast from the wedding planner. Close to the bridesmaids and brides table was a small table with a lovely 3-tier cake. Family and Guests were also treated to music once again rendered by Angel Zondo as well as Khaya Dladla, Sbusi Shangase (one of the couple’s daughter) accompanied by a live Band. Guests danced under the sparkling bright lights from candles and strung, chandelier lights. The Master of Ceremony of the night Adv. Hlengiwe Mkhasibe (a friend to the couple) invited the guests to the dance floor, and the spouses joined the floor with their entourage.
Fun was had by all until the wee hours of the morning and the amazing part was that the make-up and hair of both the brides and their maids remained intact – not one hair out of place, no smudges no flaws. Credit for this goes to none other than Embelesh House of Beauty led by the flamboyant Samke Shelembe.
Sigh. Now I have to wait a decade before I experience such a flamboyant occasion.