Mela Hlekwayo, the Spiritual, Aspiring Storyteller through Film and Television.  A Managing Director of Evolve with Mela.

Everything in existence is created out of God, by God, and therefore, is the energy of God. It is the love we make with our energy – with our ideas, words, actions, possessions, inventions, everything – that gives them true meaning.
It is putting the energy of love into all of our existence – our thoughts, words and actions – that is what we are here to do. We are here to embody the love that God is with all of our energy – to co-create ideas of love and turn them into actions of love.
The deepest awareness we can have is: “I am love, made out of God.”

As human beings, we exist in a highly social environment. How we’re seen is important in determining whether we’ll be chosen – be it for a school, a job, or a date. However, nowadays, we seem to live in a culture in which we are more visible than ever. Social media and the new pressures that come with it can cause us increased levels of anxiety and self-consciousness, as we no longer just have concerns about how we’re perceived face-to-face, but how we’re represented virtually.

People tend to have a much easier time seeing the best in others than they do in themselves. We look at our friends with kind eyes. We appreciate their attributes and forgive their quirks. If we can cultivate a similar attitude toward ourselves, then make it a discipline to carry this attitude with us we move through our day, we can have a less harsh standard for ourselves. Our fear of failure or humiliation can be alleviated by the reassurance that we won’t punish and torture ourselves for messing up. We are our own worst critic. If we can be a friend instead, we can unload a lot of our self-consciousness.

This year or rather I say this valentine’s best gift you can give anyone but your self is LOVE 

In a relationship, it’s easy to forget about yourself and focus on the other person. Believe it or not, not having enough self-love can sabotage relationships that have potential or can lead to settling in an unhappy relationship. Don’t be that girl. 

Here’s why self-love is important in a relationship:

You become a better lover now that you know how to love and respect yourself, you will be able to love someone else. You will be able to show compassion and put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Loving them will stop feeling like a chore and hurting them will be the last thing on your mind because you know how it feels to be hurt. Trust me, he/she will love you more for this. And you won’t have self-doubt and you will communicate better with yourself and partner.

You will attract better and it will be easy to identify what isn’t for you. You know when to walk away. When your good love is not being returned and you feel disrespected, you know it’s time to go. You are content with who you are and know you deserve more, so you don’t even hesitate. 

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