Chronicles of a Christian Lesbian: The Law, Radio and Church

By: Donsy Kunene

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“When you are spiritually connected, you are not looking for occasions to be offended, and you are not judging and labelling others. You are is a state of grace in which you know you are connected to God and thus free from the effects of anyone or anything external to yourself.” Wayne Dyer

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your own eye, when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye” Matthew 7:1-5

“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own” Paulo Coelho, The alchemist

Whenever I recite the above quotes and verses, my mind just get too muddled, which results from what our society has become. Our daily conversations are treated apposite when they involve judgmental disagreements and confrontations. The most judgemental people are those whom we expect to lead by example, such as religious people. In this context, I am talking about Pastors to be exact. They have shifted focus on what God sent them to do and have conformed to the ways of the world. They tend to use the Bible in a way that suits each individual for that particular incident.

Recently in KZN, we have been reading and hearing about a Pastor who has condemned homosexual people in a very repugnant manner. You would expect a Man or Woman of God to go out and bring people to the Kingdom of God, it turns out they are doing the opposite.

Pastor Lungi M of the Kingdom of God Ministries in Durban, also a Presenter at Imbokodo FM, a Christian Community radio station, has launched herself as ‘the famous pastor’. This follows her series of verbal incantations towards some of the members of her church through radio programmes, social media and preaching. The Pastor took an extreme measure to abolish LGBTI Community through a radio Programme using defamatory language which is against the Independent Communication Authority of South Africa (ICASA) regulations.

This has been perceived as an act of desperation by the Pastor, to change what God has created by being judgemental, which drew the attention of UniQ MagazineSA. The magazine has been following cautiously the incidents around the issue between the ‘famous pastor’ and the members of her church, who turned out to be lesbians, before they left the house of God. The polemics and degrading ear shuttering utterances were noted by these members of the church while they were still part of the Church.

One of the former members of the Kingdom of God Ministries, Nonhlakanipho Zungu who happens to be a well-known lesbian in her community, has been the victim of verbal diarrhoea by the Pastor.

nonhlakanipho-zunguAs per Zungu, she came to the church just to get herself closer to God which the Pastor was very pleased with, to the extent that she used to ask Zungu to do things for her at the church and outside the church. Zungu eventually felt uncomfortable when she learnt that there are church members who say offensive things behind her back; she decided to leave the church. She then started to receive text messages from Lungi M (which the UniQ MagSA has in its possession), begging her to come back to church. Zungu was too hesitant to come back to church but eventually she went back.

While she was back at church enjoying being a child of God, the no longer caring Pastor started to accuse Zungu of corrupting her female church members. The Pastor insinuated that Zungu was introducing other members into Lesbianism. According to Zungu, she was ready to be healed if being a lesbian was a sin and abomination. She then asked the Pastor to pray for her to be straight. The Pastor started to pray over Zungu tirelessly with no change to the situation.

It has been said that the Pastor got very angry when she realised that her prayers and ‘holy attempts’ to change Zungu’s sexuality were dwindling.  That is when Zungu became the victim of everyday insults from the Pastor until the day she instructed her and a friend to never place their feet in her Church. The insults and threats forced Zungu to apply to court for a protection order based on harassment and threats as well as Equality, protection order was granted to her while the Pastor and her Lawyer decided not to appear in court. ICASA also demanded that the Community Radio Station (Imbokodo FM) and the Pastor, convey a public apology to Zungu and the LGBTI Community.

Church Excommunication: Bigotry or Biblical doctrine?

As society we have people that we expect to be our role models branded as leaders, guiders and protectors of the deprived. Those are educators, Pastors and parents to name the few. It then becomes a worrying challenge when the same people decide to throw you out and you find yourself alone. It is worse when it is done by a Pastor who is meant to be non-judgemental. One begins to ask themselves if the pastor and church people have created their own way of life or whether they are still following biblical doctrine.

One of the UniQ MagSA contributors Ndabezinhle Myeza was asked to share his personal views on Church Excommunication. This is what he had to say:

“I am of a view that people form their values out of sentiment. It’s very easy to quote it out of context, there is no verse in the Bible that is pro bigotry but mankind is bigoted. Man creates doctrines and gives himself permission to speak for God. There is no evidence of excommunication in the bible”. I rest my case.